UNILAG SAGE

Showing posts with label CUPID TALK. Show all posts

Of course we all know these set of species are the most complicated creatures in the universe, but also the most beautiful creatures in our world. But hey, you don’t need a mighty dictionary guide to understand a lady, they usually posses these similar traits; except she just wants to be different. This is the faculty of girls.

1. Perceive: Ladies are very intellectual, it is just their nature. They are mostly not moved by his physical attribute, well it part of it, but more often than not they are moved by what they perceive about a guy. His confidence, character, personality and charm. While is physical attributes are always secondary.

2. More emotional: so if you don’t understand why she is heightened in her emotions, it’s because ladies are naturally emotional, few of them kill their emotions but their emotion always have a way to overpower them. In crisis, especially when it comes to emotional ones.

3. Detailed: she is not a headliner, are you thinking you guys just spoke for 30mins? And she already can decipher who you are or she already understands you? Well don’t be surprised they are very detailed from appearance, personality to behavior pattern ladies are very deep thinkers.

4. Moody: Their mood swings moves like a pendulum. It is just the way they are; and it all narrows down to their thinking faculty which is always at work. Not all ladies get mood swings, but majority of them do.

5. Sensitive: guys are indifferent while ladies are very conscious about their appearance, acceptance, and judgment. This is basically why it’s a little difficult for girls to play with each other’s emotions unlike guys. Guys say the most random insults and do not care but ladies are sensitive and cautious.

6. Rebels: basically, the female folk always think of themselves the weaker sex, and in turn make

them aggressive. They feel cheated most times and this causes ladies to have a rebellious nature.

7. Lover of fashion: A lady would rather spend all her money or get broke on shopping for shoes rather than watching a football match. This is typical contrast between the two folks, usually causing disagreement.

8. Attention seeker: you think she doesn’t want you around, that is a defense-mechanism. They crave attention especially from the opposite sex, they always need to be accepted and loved. Well few girls are been able to live without emotions so this does not get to them.

9. Fall easily: the truth is a girl already knows if she could date this guy or not. Well sometimes constructive strategies can make a lady fall for a guy, but ladies fall easier than guys, when a lady is in love, she is love struck. She can’t help it. But went you push a lady to her limits; she would back off and never look back. She tries to always make the relationship work, but never take a lady for granted. She would always make you beg.

10. Humanity: ladies are the reason for the human race, and obviously without them, the human race ceases to exist. Women are strong, selfless, and smart. They are the reason for life.

Disengaging from a relationship is relatively one of the most difficult decision and action to take after one’s career, to disengage from a relationship, it must have warrant some causes which is likely caused by your partner not being that person, he/she use to be, probably your partner suddenly turns cold, inaccessible; distant, strange and changes in character. Basically he/she hurts your feelings. Therefore your partner in question has probably moved on because he cannot see or value what you are made of. In conclusion he/she abuse the true value of your love and takes you for granted because he/she lust where stronger than his/her love.

Disengaging from a toxic or damaging relationship takes careful therapy, physical, mentally and emotionally process. If you think you have been hurt and you need to leave this particular person and it seems so difficult, teach yourself one most important fact. You are unique, valuable, determined and blessed with potentials to become a better being without the individual. Therefore, also keep in mind that disengaging from a relationship must take communication between the two parties and if there is no reasonable solution and you feel you have been cheated on and the only thing to do is to move on. Make sure you go through the laid down therapy to move better.

1. Value yourself and work on yourself: Firstly, you must believe that you can live without the person. It may seem hard but it’s not impossible. Value yourself greatly; you would realize you can live without the person. If you were a less invigorating person, work on yourself better.

2. Meet new people: Make new friend; interesting, strange eccentric people, don’t dwell on your natural friends, their advice will only swallow you into his/her pit of pity, but don’t also make your friends your ex, hangout with new people, do new things, change your life style and be open to a new life.

3. Go on vacation or travel: If it’s possible for you to travel or go on vacation, it helps a lot; it reduces the thoughts that keeps on creeping inside your heart. Change environment, strive for new goals, new achievements, write a story, talk to people in need, listen to how people overcame their relationship problem and work on moving on.

4. Talk to people: Sometimes when you talk about your problem it has a way of alleviating those weigghts of emotions in your heart, talk to a therapist, motivational speaker a counselor, someone

you trust. It really helps. Sometimes, it’s fine to cry, it reliefs those bottled up emotions inside of you and it let go of pains.

5. Forgive: Forgiving someone that hurts you is one of the most heroic things to do, because it makes you a better person, if you don’t forgive the person, the hurt will probably never leave, but when you let go and forgive the person it has a way of giving you peace. Forgiving the person frees you from his/her charm and you see the world in a refreshing motion. You understand your worth, and open your heart to love again with your head this time.

Okay, some people fall into the friend zone, some fall into the well and some are caged into the zone, the worst part is being in the brother zone but hey, there are some ways to avoid this zone with someone you truly like. So, what’s a friend zone? This zone involves two friends, opposite sex usually, that are just friends basically and nothing attached, there are restrictions and limitations in this relationship. I will give you steps on how to avoid this zone.
First rule to avoid this zone is hey, don’t behave like a friend. Because apparently you fall into the friend zone when you behave or act like a friend. Spice it up than just being an ordinary friend.
1. Be a friend without behaving like other friends:
This is the principal rule. Don’t get all intimate with issues that doesn’t involve intimacy i.e. talk more about her sexual life than friends issue. This gives her a hit about what you want.

2. Degree of closeness: sometimes we think when we get really close to a girl she’s going to get attracted and fall, well this doesn’t always happen when you don’t give room for her to miss you, she will forget to remember how great you are, value diminishes and you become just random close friend.

3. Be a Chameleon: This is like 2face not literally 2face I mean have two different personalities, the all caring guy and the all I don’t give a fuck guy. Just let there be an air of suspense and let her crave for what you want.

4. Treat her like a Queen: here you act like the boy friend, what a boyfriend would do to his girlfriend you try as much as possible to do, buy her stuffs, hug her and treat her well. Make her feel special, treat her like she is the only girl in the world.

5. Make her miss you: hey, don’t even call her everyday, call her when necessary and don’t ask her cranky question, ask question as If you guys are in a relationship. Be a man, but never be imposing

6. Flirt playfully: At this point, you probably already have some chemistry. Just set in some playful remarks but be careful with your naughty remarks. Some girls detest it, but never shy away from flirting once a while.

7. Never show insecurity: Well, we guys always get this especially when the girl is really hot, we probably think she is too good and let our insecurity get the best of us. Never let this happen, fight for her by becoming a great guy.

8. Ask her on a date: This stage is like the final stage, apparently she gets to understand you want more than just friendship and by play all this trick perfectly well, you get the girl perfectly well without falling into the zone.